Not sure what is meant by "valves wear into the retainer". Do you mean the lock that holds the retainer? Do you use a two piece type lock? If so, I would suggest you check and make sure the taper on the retainer and the taper on the lock is the same. I bet they are not. Are they custom made retainers? If not, what is your source for them? Something from another engine made to fit? have you tried aluminum ones? do they do the same? Sorry for the questions, Im just curious as to the problem and the cause. Good luck.